I realise new year’s resolutions are not everyone’s cup of tea, but I like making them and have been moderately successful in keeping them (especially since I started detailing them on my LiveJournal, as I feel kinda beholden to them!) This year is no exception and I’ve made a few:

  1. Get that 100kg squat (in competition)
  2. Work on my grip.
  3. Go to Codebar at least once a month.
  4. Go to grappling at Urban Kings again, maybe once a fortnight if I enjoy it.
  5. Dress more snazzily. I have a wardrobe of amazing clothes, yet wear jeans & a sweatshirt almost every day!
  6. Try to wear makeup on work days (just mascara & kohl). I seem to make this resolution every year and fail miserably at it!

I’m also thinking that in 2014 I want to surround myself with more rad fat/size acceptance people and fewer “FitFam” types. I tend to follow fitness people when they follow me on Twitter, and to be honest I don’t find it motivating/inspiring, or whatever it is we’re “meant” to feel. Instead I feel discouraged and skeptical (especially about food fads – it seems like every week there’s a new one, from Paleo to “evil” grains to the one where Amish people allegedly don’t get sick). Reading that stuff doesn’t do my brain much good – let alone what gluten is supposedly doing to it!

I am also super-keen to get more “ordinary” people lifting with me. It’s fab when we have new lifters at the gym who are personal trainers or other fitness pros, but I feel left behind (and, I confess, jealous) when they overtake me quickly and achieve things in 6 months which took me 4 years. The FitFam mantra there would probably be to be inspired and push myself harder to match up with them, but I’m a realist – an increasingly old one – and I’d rather help other, regular folks get up to my level than chase the ideal of the fitness pros. Maybe this is giving up or settling but, eeeh, it’s my choice. Do what makes you comfortable.

The other thing I’ve noticed among some FitFam types is the amount of gender essentialism – men being men & women being women. Really, fuck that noise. If I have to read one more thing about men being manly; women getting sexy squat butts; articles decrying men for being “pussies” or “strong is the new skinny” BS, I might throw up. I like to surround myself outside the gym with people who reject traditional gender/social roles stuff, and I’d like to bring that into my gym life too.

So, resolution #7 is get more people lifting. And to that end I did the post about lifting at BGWLC – OK, it’s kinda selfish, wanting to draw “people like me” in so that I’m not alone; but I also want to try to reject some of the bullshit in fitness by bringing more diverse people into it. Possible? I don’t know, but it’s worth a try.

Edited to add: just after I posted this, I saw Caitlin’s excellent post along similar lines. Go read it!


4 thoughts on “Resolutions

  1. Alis

    Well said, Laura! I like your blog posts and I follow your lifting because I wholly share your fitness/lifting mentality.

    I try not to worry too much about diet. I try and eat healthily most of the time and I eat appropriately for my sport (weightlifting), but I will never “diet,” nor do I want to look anything other than “normal” or what is natural FOR ME. Being fit and healthy is a lot more than just physical health – my mental health would surely suffer far too much if I gave up the Ben and Jerry’s. 😉

    And I agree with the #womenshouldliftweightsforsquatbottoms comment.

    All the best,


    1. lozette Post author

      Thanks Alis!! You are definitely the sort of person I want to surround myself with 🙂

  2. mandy @ fatgirlgonehealthy

    “If I have to read one more thing about men being manly; women getting sexy squat butts; articles decrying men for being “pussies” or “strong is the new skinny” BS, I might throw up.” Sing it Sister! I think it’s a great thing that you want to bring “regular” people into the weightlifting world. Nothing is more inspiring that showing us regular people can do it too! I don’t go well with the whole concept of resolutions so I’m taking a slightly different path but It’s all about finding what works for you.

    1. lozette Post author

      I really like resolutions as they work well for me, but I know they don’t for most people! I started off with really small ones a few years ago (e.g. “Get a manicure”) and those quick wins made me more confident about going for bigger goals. I don’t always manage to fulfil all my goals though!!

      I liked your post – it’s a good attitude to take too!!

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